Bounties Don't Work for Shidduchim

By William Lebovics September 2, 2026 25 views

Rabbi Lebovics compares offering $100,000 for a shidduch to an FBI bounty, arguing that appreciation and gratitude toward shadchanim yields far better results than financial incentives.

Rabbi William Lebovics shares candid wisdom about matchmaking incentives and gratitude. Rather than offering bounties, he advocates appreciating the shadchanim who dedicate their time to helping others find their bashert.

Questions & Answers

What does the rabbi compare offering money for finding a Shidduch to?

The rabbi compares it to a bounty, like the FBI's most wanted posters that offer rewards for capturing criminals.

What alternative does the rabbi suggest instead of offering $100,000?

The rabbi suggests sending flowers with $500 and a thank you note to the people who spent countless hours helping, such as the three Shat Khanim, as this will produce better results.

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