Rabbi Lebovics compares offering $100,000 for a shidduch to an FBI bounty, arguing that appreciation and gratitude toward shadchanim yields far better results than financial incentives.
Rabbi William Lebovics shares candid wisdom about matchmaking incentives and gratitude. Rather than offering bounties, he advocates appreciating the shadchanim who dedicate their time to helping others find their bashert.
Rabbi William Lebovics discusses the practice of offering financial incentives to those who help arrange marriages, or shidduchim. He compares offering money for finding a shidduch to a bounty, like the FBI's most wanted posters that offer rewards for capturing criminals.
Rather than offering large sums of money, the rabbi suggests an alternative approach. He recommends sending flowers with $500 and a thank you note to the people who spent countless hours helping, such as the shadchanim, as this method will produce better results.
The rabbi emphasizes the importance of gratitude and appreciation for those who dedicate their time to helping others find their bashert. According to his perspective, acknowledging the efforts of shadchanim through thoughtful gestures is more effective than treating the process as a transactional arrangement.
The rabbi compares it to a bounty, like the FBI's most wanted posters that offer rewards for capturing criminals.
The rabbi suggests sending flowers with $500 and a thank you note to the people who spent countless hours helping, such as the three Shat Khanim, as this will produce better results.
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